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Beauty in the Boundaries
I was talking with my daughter recently and she shared with me that she is teaching my granddaughter about setting and respecting physical space limits. My daughter didn’t use those specific words, but it is essentially what she was referring to. It reminded me of...
Spaghetti and Hurt Feelings
I am a pretty clumsy person. Like a keep-an-eye-on-me-around-closed-sliding-glass-doors, probably-should-never-eat-spaghetti-without-a-full-apron-on kind of person. Suffice it to say, my childhood nickname lauded my propensity to accumulate minor bumps and scrapes through incredible feats of un-coordination. I won’t tell you how old I was when I nearly...
Core Emotional and Relational Patterns
The two biggest factors that influence your present day relationship patterns are: How you experienced conflict in your family of origin. How/if you received comfort in your family of origin. Let me illustrate with two versions of the same story, with different endings: Version 1:...
Doing Life Alone
Somewhere along the way on my journey of life, I developed a belief that I was supposed to do life alone. I absorbed a belief system from the movies I watched, the television I consumed, and the people who were closest to me, that the...
Building a Winning Team by Knowing Your People and Letting Them Know You
If your business is struggling, is it possible that it’s because you know your financial statements better than you know your people? If, as a therapist and former business owner, I could make just one recommendation to owners of struggling businesses it would be this;...
Seven Areas of Self-Care
As the New Year rolls around, many of us are reflecting on the past year and considering what we want to focus on during this next trip around the sun. As I’ve spoken with clients and thought about my own goals, the topic of holistic,...
How do I Know if I have the "Right" Therapist?
For someone who’s never been in therapy, trying to find out what makes a good therapist can feel harder than finding a good doctor. After all, who wants to go into a room and strip one’s emotional clothing, not to mention spend money, on someone...
What’s Running Your Show?
Situations arise that we feel we don’t have control over. Sometimes it is positive, but most of the time it is the negative experiences that gets us flustered and responding poorly. It is these experiences that are the building blocks of our lives that we...