Over 10 years ago, I stumbled on a video online that has stuck with me ever since. A woman named Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie gave a TED Talk titled, “The Danger of a Single Story.” As a highly educated Nigerian woman born into a middle class...
In a world that often rewards self-sacrifice, being agreeable, and making others comfortable, many of us fall into the quiet trap of people-pleasing. We say yes when we mean no. We shrink ourselves to avoid conflict. We smile through discomfort, hoping to be liked, accepted,...
Have you ever entered a conversation seeking comfort and connection, but instead you walked away feeling unheard or even judged? Did the conversation feel as unsatisfying as going to Chick-Fil-A on a Sunday, only to remember it’s closed? Have you ever taken the nerve-racking step...
Triggered Imagine walking into a grocery store on a quiet Saturday morning. The smell of cologne from someone passing by suddenly makes your chest tighten. Your heart races, your stomach knots, and without warning you feel on edge and unsafe even though nothing in the...
“Where passive communication says, ‘Your needs matter more than mine,’ and aggressive communication says, ‘My needs matter more than yours,’ assertiveness says, ‘Both of our needs matter.’”
The truth is, our phones will always clamor for attention. Notifications don’t stop, feeds never end, and someone is always posting something new. But your marriage deserves more than the leftover scraps of your focus. By choosing to put your spouse first — even in small, ordinary moments — you send a powerful message: “You are my priority.” Over time, those intentional choices build intimacy, trust, and a marriage where both partners feel seen and valued.
You likely have adopted and are continuing to use the same treatment on yourself that you were taught growing up, and for many of us, it wasn't always kind. You may not even consciously realize what you are doing let alone be able to make...
Peace and healing often live in those moments beyond the chatter and busyness of everyday life — right there among the rustling leaves, singing birds, and the occasional squirrel with no sense of personal space.
The reality is that there will be discomfort either way, but emotional expression can lead to a more integrated, embodied self, where repression will not. Which discomfort will you choose?
What areas in your own life can you look into that may help reduce the number of fires in the first place? Almost every individual has the potential and capability to look deeply within themselves and identify areas of growth and how to positively influence those areas. How can you begin to promote wellness today?