As Thanksgiving approaches, many of us start thinking about turkey, football, and family gatherings—but beneath it all lies an invitation to slow down and reflect. Gratitude, at its best, is more than a seasonal nicety. It’s a mindset that reshapes how we see the world...
We’ve all been there — sitting across from someone in pain, searching for the right words to help in whatever way we can. We want to provide comfort, reassurance, or problem-solve because we care. But sometimes, the most healing thing we can offer isn’t advice,...
Over 10 years ago, I stumbled on a video online that has stuck with me ever since. A woman named Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie gave a TED Talk titled, “The Danger of a Single Story.” As a highly educated Nigerian woman born into a middle class...
In a world that often rewards self-sacrifice, being agreeable, and making others comfortable, many of us fall into the quiet trap of people-pleasing. We say yes when we mean no. We shrink ourselves to avoid conflict. We smile through discomfort, hoping to be liked, accepted,...
Have you ever entered a conversation seeking comfort and connection, but instead you walked away feeling unheard or even judged? Did the conversation feel as unsatisfying as going to Chick-Fil-A on a Sunday, only to remember it’s closed? Have you ever taken the nerve-racking step...
Triggered Imagine walking into a grocery store on a quiet Saturday morning. The smell of cologne from someone passing by suddenly makes your chest tighten. Your heart races, your stomach knots, and without warning you feel on edge and unsafe even though nothing in the...
“Where passive communication says, ‘Your needs matter more than mine,’ and aggressive communication says, ‘My needs matter more than yours,’ assertiveness says, ‘Both of our needs matter.’”
The truth is, our phones will always clamor for attention. Notifications don’t stop, feeds never end, and someone is always posting something new. But your marriage deserves more than the leftover scraps of your focus. By choosing to put your spouse first — even in small, ordinary moments — you send a powerful message: “You are my priority.” Over time, those intentional choices build intimacy, trust, and a marriage where both partners feel seen and valued.
You likely have adopted and are continuing to use the same treatment on yourself that you were taught growing up, and for many of us, it wasn't always kind. You may not even consciously realize what you are doing let alone be able to make...