Baby Steps

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There have been a few times in my life when I found myself standing at the edge of a cliff.  


One of my favorite times was when I visited the Grand Canyon while I was in college. It was breathtaking, but I'll admit that I was thankful for the railing. 

When I visited the Grand Canyon, I was able to hike down to the bottom. I didn't scale down a cliff, but instead took a meandering, all-day hike to a place called Phantom Ranch. 

Our lives can often mirror this same journey. 

There is rarely a time when we make one big decision to get us where we end up going. Instead, we often take baby steps down a path that can leave us wondering how we ended up there. Just as often, we look for the one “big decision” to change our life for the better. 

Unfortunately, we often don’t pay attention to the little things along the way that lead us down the path.  We can become so preoccu ...

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Time After Time

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This one’s for the lonely,

The one’s who seek and find,

Only to be let down,

Time after Time…

 

A friend of mine (let’s call him Brian for the duration of this post) recently shared with me a phenomenon, that he found not only in his personal journey toward self-actualization through his childhood trauma, but specifically in the context of his own therapy. He was actually made aware of this cognitive pattern in which he would consistently caveat his trauma disclosure with a vindication or defense of the perpetrator of his abuse. In his context, this was often his parents, and a stranger who had sexually assaulted him when he was five to six. 

This one’s for the torn down,

The experts at the fall,

Come on friends get up now,

You’re not alone at all

 

For context, Brian’s father was severely abusiv ...

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Where Did Your Imagination Go?

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When was the last time you experienced true wonder? When was the last time you were awestruck? Why is it that when we become adults, our imagination seems to disappear and our capability for awe and wonder seems nowhere to be found?

 

Your capability for wonder and that overwhelming feeling of being awestruck is not gone, my friend. Instead, as we get older we learn to misuse our imagination. I was always described as a very imaginative child. If you’ve ever read Anne of Green Gables, then you know the kind of child I was. Always thinking “there’s scope for the imagination here” and getting caught up in daydreams. However, as I became older and as I encountered the stress of life, I turned my imagination into the worst form of it. You see, worry is the misuse of our imagination. (Harris, 2020)

 

Do you experience a large amount of worry in your life? Well first, congratulations! You still have your ...

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