Category: Decisions

Beauty in the Boundaries

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I was talking with my daughter recently and she shared with me that she is teaching my granddaughter about setting and respecting physical space limits.  My daughter didn’t use those specific words, but it is essentially what she was referring to.  It reminded me of the importance of setting clear boundaries with others and the important responsibility of keeping and respecting boundaries of others and of ourselves.  It is good to recognize that we all have limitations and recognizing that and putting healthy boundaries up helps us to thrive.

My granddaughter is learning about a physical boundary, but there are other areas we may want to consider when thinking of boundaries.  Areas that I have learned to value and protect with boundaries include financial, time, energy, and emotional boundaries.  These can change as our circumstances change, but it is good to know what boundary I need or want to be in place for the c ...

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Spaghetti and Hurt Feelings

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Spaghetti and Hurt Feelings


I am a pretty clumsy person. Like a keep-an-eye-on-me-around-closed-sliding-glass-doors, probably-should-never-eat-spaghetti-without-a-full-apron-on kind of person. Suffice it to say, my childhood nickname lauded my propensity to accumulate minor bumps and scrapes through incredible feats of un-coordination. I won’t tell you how old I was when I nearly broke my glasses walking into the corner of a doorway instead of through the doorway - although, to be perfectly clear, it was part of the transparent wall of a racquetball court…and that was the problem: it was perfectly clear.

 

Anyway, as my luck would have it, I’m also a pretty relationally-clumsy person. At times I completely miss that I have caused emotional discomfort or harm. I put my foot in my mouth routinely enough that I< ...

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  • Family
  • Relationships
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  • relationships
  • shame

Making Thoughtful Decisions

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My husband and I are in the middle of a home renovation. We are adding a bathroom. There are so many decisions to be made. There are major decisions about placement of the toilet and minor decisions about how many electrical outlets to install. I recently realized how anxiety-inducing this process can become.

I felt completely overwhelmed when it came to picking out tile for the shower. There are so many options...thousands of options. How do I know if I picked the “right” one? My anxiety skyrocketed when I was in the middle of the home improvement store and under time pressure to pick out tile. I said to my husband..”this would be so much easier if there were only two options”. Then it hit me...

We live in a world where we have so many choices for everything. It’s wonderful to have access to the specific type of Chicken Satay seasoning for my favorite Thai recipe. I love that I can purchase the perfect light bulb to make m ...

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  • breathing
  • practice
  • reflection

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