Category: Decisions

Chasing Joyfulness...

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We often focus on the negative. What don’t we have? What is still lacking? What if it never gets better? 


There are times we should focus on what’s wrong. Ignoring it isn’t going to help anything. A life without reflection is likely one without learning or growing, and can lead to additional complications. I invite you to think of things going well in addition to this reflection. What have you done well so far in your life? There must be something. Don’t count yourself out before you’ve truly reflected on the ways you’ve learned and the ways you’ve succeeded. If life is feeling extra sad or gray lately, find ways to make life just a little sweeter. Some ideas include: 

  • Stay in the sun for an extra minute. 
  • Look at encouraging quotes.
  • Read old cards or letters from friends and family. 
  • Drink a glass of water. 
  • Take time to m ...

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    • Emotions
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    • Practice
    • Presence
    • Processing
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    • Struggle
    • uncertainty

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Procrastination Cycles and Mental Health

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Our ability to manage logistics can often be overlooked when we think of our mental health. But logistics (planning, doing regular, boring life tasks like cleaning, paying the bills, etc) are an important factor for our stress and anxiety levels. For many people, trying to plan or white-knuckle their way out of frustration with managing their day-to-day life doesn't work. 

Maybe this is familiar:

Your kitchen is wildly messy → tired and overwhelmed, you decide not to do it now → you feel a teeeeensy bit better, because you’ve decided not to deal with the thing. → your kitchen is worse now, and because of that, your feeling of overwhelm has also gotten worse. Now, more than ever, you really (really, really) don’t want to clean the kitchen, because it would take a solid 2 hours to clean it properly. At some point, you will likely reach a point where you will end up cleaning things, or someone else you live with may. And t ...

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  • Anxiety
  • Assertiveness
  • Change
  • Control
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Goals
  • Mindset
  • Practice
  • Procrastination
  • Productivity
  • Rest

Tags:

  • Emotions
  • anxiety
  • anxious
  • growth
  • intentional
  • procrastination

The Most Undermet Emotional Needs

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For years I often heard people say that you have to go through grief and pain, you can’t go around it, you can’t go above it, you have to go through it. For years I didn’t understand what that meant. We live in an incredibly emotionally avoidant culture which then leads to chronic mental emotional health struggles, high addiction and disconnection from self and others among other symptoms. 

In order to move through grief or pain a person must create a safe space for emotions to build. Like a wave on a beach, emotions need to be able to build and crash safely on the shore before they can recede out and become calm again. Instead of allowing the natural flow, we often dam up the water as high as we can to keep it from crashing, but then when it inevitably breaks the dam, and the lifetime of suppressed emotions can come cascading and flooding ...

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  • Communication
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  • Coping
  • Decisions
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Empathy
  • Goals
  • Grief
  • Mindset
  • Positivity
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Tragedy
  • compassion

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  • Communication
  • Emotions
  • acceptance
  • anxiety
  • change
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  • coping
  • courage
  • emotional intelligence
  • feelings
  • grief
  • growth
  • self-compassion

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