“It’s fine.” “Everything is fine.” “I’m fine.” Have you ever strung together these three sentences and thought to yourself, “shoot, I think I might not be fine”. About a year ago I was in a car accident that resulted in emergency surgery, a stay in...
Whether we realize it or not we use coping strategies everyday. Some maybe as subtle as sleeping in to avoid the traffic, or procrastinating on a project or term paper due (guilty) hoping it will just do it itself. It is when our unhealthy habits...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) suggest that our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are interconnected, and that what we think and do impacts the way we feel. It follows that monitoring and changing thoughts where needed can change one’s life. It’s reported that the average person has...
I am a pretty clumsy person. Like a keep-an-eye-on-me-around-closed-sliding-glass-doors, probably-should-never-eat-spaghetti-without-a-full-apron-on kind of person. Suffice it to say, my childhood nickname lauded my propensity to accumulate minor bumps and scrapes through incredible feats of un-coordination. I won’t tell you how old I was when I nearly...
When you think of grief or grieving, what comes to mind? If you’re like many people, death and dying are probably at the top of the list, or perhaps they are the only points on the list. In my experience with people - both formal...
Everyone deals with challenges to their mental health. At this moment you may not feel lost in a cloud of depression or ready to jump out of your skin with anxiety, but you may be in the middle of a really hard day, or a...
As a father, and former child myself, I’ve been exposed to many animated movies. Some stand out for their entertainment value, while others stand out for their accurate, and oftentimes humorous portrayal of reality. Of the latter, one such movie stands out above the others...
The two biggest factors that influence your present day relationship patterns are: How you experienced conflict in your family of origin. How/if you received comfort in your family of origin. Let me illustrate with two versions of the same story, with different endings: Version 1:...
I grew up in a culture where opening up emotionally, or being vulnerable, was seen as weakness. It was for the gullible and naive - not the courageous. Men were discouraged from ever showing sadness or fear. If they did, they were called names and...