Slow Down. Breathe. Be Present.

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Do you ever feel like life is just passing you by? You spend so much time running from the past, and looking towards the future, that you’ve forgotten how to enjoy the present? Life is precious. In a blink of an eye, that baby that fit so perfectly in your arms, is now graduating high school with a whole journey ahead. You look in the mirror and for the first time you see the laugh lines and wrinkles, and remember the last time you laughed so hard your belly hurt. We talk about living out our story, about writing our own chapters, pages, and sentences, yet; we fail to stop and take the time to actually read what we are writing…to let the joy, the love, the pain that fills each page, seethe into our souls so that we can embrace each moment that makes up our stories.

Living in the present, is a skill that is so often desired, and yet so rarely achieved. Take a deep breath. Close your eyes. Take in the oxygen that fills our lungs and gives us l ...

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  • Mindfullness
  • Presence
  • Story

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  • breathing
  • mindfullness
  • reflection

When We Just Can't Get Started...

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Do you procrastinate? Do you find it difficult to start or complete a project? Maybe you are a frustrated perfectionist. Some people were raised in a home where perfectionism was the ideal to shoot for. In reality, perfectionism can be a road block to accomplishing goals, completing tasks or getting needs met.

 

Our desire or driving need to be perfect or do a job perfectly can shut down our ability to move forward and leave us feeling unmotivated and paralyzed. It can prevent us from sharing pain with a trusted friend or calling the doctor. If there is not enough time or energy to do a job perfectly, we may feel frustrated and leave the job undone.

 

There have been many times where I did not even attempt to go after a goal for fear of failing. The thoughts running through my mind sounded like…

 

“What if I fail?”

“What will people think of me?” or,

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  • Control
  • Procrastination

Tags:

  • change
  • procrastination

Are You Read to Get Behind the Wheel?

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I love using props in my sessions as a way to help clients to understand where they are currently, but also as a way for them to understand how they may be able to navigate through their situation. One of these props helps me illustrate how we allow our focus to get easily diverted and how we get off our intended course or goal.

In my office, a windshield with a steering wheel and a rearview mirror are mounted to a wall.  I have the client sit down and look out the windshield. Challenging them to engage their imagination, I ask them to describe the road that they see in front of them.  Is it a smooth highway? A dirty back road full of potholes? Or are they off on a beaten path? Once they have this image in their mind, I then ask them to decide where they want to go. Do they want to change the direction they are headed and what would a new destination look like. This leads us into a conversation on goals and the process of counselin ...

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  • Change

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  • change

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