Dear Reader,

Dear Reader,

We might not know each other, but if you’ve found this blog, chances are we would get along well and have at least something to talk about. As a counselor, I’m passionate about thoughts, feelings, and relationships. Personally, I’m also into introspection (isn't everyone?). So I’ve taken this opportunity today to share with you one of my favorite therapeutic techniques: letter writing. Writing a letter is one of the best ways I know to a) process my thoughts and feelings, b) connect with others, and c) understand myself.

Perhaps you’ve heard about journaling? Either from your therapist or teacher or culture at large, journaling is one of the most versatile tools we have to make the intangible (thoughts and feelings) tangible. I love the clarity and relief I experience when I reach into my swirling head and write or type out what I’m thinking. Putting words to both my thoughts and feelings helps me to calm the storm inside. Writing a letter is basically audience-directed journaling. Using this tool and directing it toward a specific person or group can clarify and release the emotions I have towards that person and lead to catharsis. Can you think of anyone you might have strong or unresolved emotions toward?

Writing a letter to someone does not mean you have to send it, but you can! What I love most about corresponding with others via snail mail is the thought of surprising someone with something they aren’t necessarily expecting. I know I get very excited to see a hand written card or note in my own mailbox. I also appreciate how slow and low pressure this form of communication is — sometime with texts or phone calls there is an expectation to respond ASAP, but this is not the case with letters. Letters allow us to spend time thinking about what we feel and how we want to say it; we have the opportunity to go deeper if desired. And usually letters find a captive audience. There’s no ignoring or mishearing a printed page. I’m glad we live in an age where we can connect and communicate in so many ways, but I hope letter-writing never goes out of style. Maybe you would enjoy this form of communication, too.

Lastly, writing a letter is a wonderful way for me to understand myself better. Taking the time to reflect and communicate has helped me clarify what’s most important to me and to become more able to recognize my own voice. These times of sitting, writing, and thinking about those I love have taught me more about myself and my relationships than I ever expected, and I hope they will do the same for you.

So, dear reader, I am inviting you to write a letter. It might be a good thing. No pressure, but I’m pretty sure I like you, and I always want good things for people I like. That’s all.

Sincerely yours,

Audrey Aukeman, LPC