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The Power of Forgiveness in Relationships

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Forgiveness is a cornerstone of healthy relationships, yet it is often one of the hardest acts to perform. Understanding why forgiveness is challenging and recognizing its profound benefits can help individuals and couples navigate the complexities of their relationships with greater empathy and resilience.

Why Forgiveness is Hard

Forgiveness requires us to confront our pain and vulnerability. When someone we care about hurts us, it triggers a range of intense emotions—anger, betrayal, sadness—that can be difficult to process. Holding onto these feelings can create a sense of control or protection, making it feel safer than the perceived risk of getting hurt again. Additionally, societal messages often equate forgiveness with weakness or submission, further complicating our willingness to let go of resentment.

Forgiveness also involves a shift in perspective. It requires empathy and understanding towards ...

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  • Assertiveness
  • Comfort
  • Coping
  • Decisions
  • Emotions
  • Empathy
  • Family
  • Grief
  • Mindset
  • Positivity
  • Practice
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Relationships
  • Struggle
  • Vulnerability

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  • Hopes
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  • change
  • compassion
  • coping
  • emotional intelligence
  • faith
  • feelings
  • friendships
  • growth
  • intentional
  • relationships
  • self-care
  • self-compassion

Adventures & Antidotes

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I have a nine year old son who loves to read. Before bed, we’ll often grab a classic tale to read together. As I’m writing this, we’re deep into Treasure Island, enjoying the harrowing tale of a young boy named Jim Hawkins who winds up aboard a ship of marauding pirates. Jim has to use his wits to outsmart the mutinous crew as he seeks to right wrongs and avoid certain death. 

My son and I find ourselves drawn to the underdog hero, cheering his valiant escapades. We’re left wondering whether we could muster the courage to outwit the unscrupulous Long John Silver, whether we would put ourselves at risk to aid dying friends, and if we would be willing to undertake an arduous journey that would eventually lead to untold treasure.

We close the book after reading a few chapters at a time and find ourselves back in reality. I’ve somehow ended up in an uncomfortable sitting position, my back aching and my arm numb from holding the bo ...

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  • Family
  • Goals
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  • Mindset
  • Positivity
  • Practice
  • Prayer
  • Presence
  • Relationships
  • Rest
  • Story
  • Stress
  • Struggle
  • uncertainty
  • weariness

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  • success
  • time
  • unplug

Procrastination Cycles and Mental Health

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Our ability to manage logistics can often be overlooked when we think of our mental health. But logistics (planning, doing regular, boring life tasks like cleaning, paying the bills, etc) are an important factor for our stress and anxiety levels. For many people, trying to plan or white-knuckle their way out of frustration with managing their day-to-day life doesn't work. 

Maybe this is familiar:

Your kitchen is wildly messy → tired and overwhelmed, you decide not to do it now → you feel a teeeeensy bit better, because you’ve decided not to deal with the thing. → your kitchen is worse now, and because of that, your feeling of overwhelm has also gotten worse. Now, more than ever, you really (really, really) don’t want to clean the kitchen, because it would take a solid 2 hours to clean it properly. At some point, you will likely reach a point where you will end up cleaning things, or someone else you live with may. And t ...

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  • Assertiveness
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  • Decisions
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  • Exhaustion
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  • Mindset
  • Practice
  • Procrastination
  • Productivity
  • Rest

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  • anxious
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  • intentional
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