What Is My True Capacity?
We go into every day with a set capacity. When we think of that capacity, many of us view it as having 100% to give every day. If we can do that, we are successful. If we do that, we’ve done all we can. If...
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When Empathy Gets Us In Trouble
In recent years, there has been an increase in discussions about empathy. Social topics including cultural divisiveness, racism, lack of inclusivity, problems in personal relationships, have blamed a lack of empathy as the source of the problem. Empathy is important to demonstrate compassion and to...
Understanding Parts
As a father, and former child myself, I’ve been exposed to many animated movies. Some stand out for their entertainment value, while others stand out for their accurate, and oftentimes humorous portrayal of reality. Of the latter, one such movie stands out above the others...
Global Trauma
It’s abundantly clear the world does not look or feel the same as it did two years ago. I’ve noticed that people tend to refer to time as “before 2020” and “after 2020”. With my clients, I have referred to the pandemic and quarantine as...
Core Emotional and Relational Patterns
The two biggest factors that influence your present day relationship patterns are: How you experienced conflict in your family of origin. How/if you received comfort in your family of origin. Let me illustrate with two versions of the same story, with different endings: Version 1:...
Making Thoughtful Decisions
My husband and I are in the middle of a home renovation. We are adding a bathroom. There are so many decisions to be made. There are major decisions about placement of the toilet and minor decisions about how many electrical outlets to install. I...
Feeling Like You Are Failing At Life
Feel like a failure? Try this… For the second time this month, I switched all my clients to telehealth, battled with my husband for time to work, canceled 10 days worth of commitments to friends, family, and random offices, and headlocked my 7 year old...
Doing Life Alone
Somewhere along the way on my journey of life, I developed a belief that I was supposed to do life alone. I absorbed a belief system from the movies I watched, the television I consumed, and the people who were closest to me, that the...
What's Your Relationship Status?
With warm weather comes the invitation and at times, even necessitates, cooler clothing that inevitably shows more skin than would be seen in cooler weather. Out come the shorts, sandals, sleeveless shirts, dresses and swimwear. Adjusting our apparel for the weather can produce many feelings...
Fighting All or Nothing Thinking
In 2015, I realized that I was addicted to screens. I was a 3 screens at all times person: watching TV, looking at stats on my computer, playing games on my phone. It wasn't until a major crisis in my life that I was able...