This is a frequent conversation I have with my adolescent clients.
Phil: Mom tells me that you refuse to wash dishes. Is that right?
Phil: Why don’t you like to wash dishes?
Steve: Not fun
Phil: Really . . . I washed dishes this morning . . . I’ve always hated washing dishes. . .
Steve: why did you wash them then?
Phil: Well, first of all I don’t wash dishes because it’s fun. Not! But there’s lots of things we need to do that are not fun. There’s two reasons why I wash dishes.
Steve: What are they?
Phil: We eat on dishes. Dishes need to be washed before they’re used again. Same goes for your clothes. Before you wear these clothes again they need to be washed.
Steve: Okay . . .
Phil: It’s not a matter if washing dishes is fun. For me, it’ ...Read more