Category: Coping

Values-Based Motherhood

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There are very few roles in the world with the expectation to be and do it all, quite like the role of a mother. There are also many contradicting messages about what exactly all of the IT we are meant to be doing is. So often, instead of challenging this ridiculous expectation, mothers succumb to the overwhelm of it all and just end up feeling like failures. The reality is, when you are expected to be and do it all, and you push yourself to achieve it, you are never really going to be doing any of it particularly well. How could you? This sets moms up for burnout in the one job you can not give up.


I recognize this phenomenon in every mom that sits across from me in therapy and I look upon their faces with so much empathy because years ago, that was me! What changed the game for my motherhood a few years ago, is that I came across the podcast, The Lazy Genius, and felt like this woman was throwing me a lifeline! She encouraged her listen ...

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  • Coping
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  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Failure
  • False self
  • Family
  • Goals
  • Mindset
  • Parenting
  • Practice
  • Relationships
  • Rest
  • Self-Care
  • Stress

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  • Confidence
  • Control
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  • Expectations
  • Hopes
  • Joy
  • Parenting
  • Women
  • acceptance
  • balance
  • boundaries
  • challenge
  • coping
  • focus
  • growth
  • intentional
  • parent
  • reflection
  • reframe
  • relationships
  • self-esteem

​Nervous System Regulation—Free Mental Health Care

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A healthy, regulated nervous system is vital for good mental health. The nervous system is responsible for discerning our general wellbeing and it warns us when we’re no longer safe. For example, we may be experiencing fear or heightened anxiety in the face of a confrontational conversation with someone we love. We may feel that by our hearts racing, having trouble thinking clearly, shortness of breath, or wanting to run away as we’re having that conversation. Other times, we may shut down, disconnect or ghost people in order to avoid a challenging situation. In any of those scenarios, our nervous system is experiencing some sort of dysregulation through overstimulation or shut down. We do not feel safe and our nervous system is working properly by letting us know and moving us into the primal, protective part of our brain. 

Maybe we face that fear and address the challenging conversation a ...

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  • Breathe
  • Coping
  • Crisis
  • Effort
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
  • Mindset
  • Practice
  • Processing
  • Self-Care
  • Stress

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  • Deep Breathing
  • Emotions
  • Self-Regulation
  • anxiety
  • body care
  • breathing
  • change
  • coping
  • crisis
  • growth
  • reframe
  • rest
  • self-care
  • stress

Everything's Fine...

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“It’s fine.”  “Everything is fine.”  “I’m fine.”  Have you ever strung together these three sentences and thought to yourself, “shoot, I think I might not be fine”. 


About a year ago I was in a car accident that resulted in emergency surgery, a stay in the trauma center at the hospital, and a long recovery (in addition to other challenges). It was the most challenging and scary time in my life. I didn’t think that I was going to make it, and yet I would find myself telling my loved ones who came to visit me, “It’s fine.”  “Everything is fine.”  “I’m fine.” 


Why is it so hard to admit that sometimes we are not fine? It has taken me a while to figure out why I was so desperately pushing myself to be fine. Though I wanted those words to be true, what I wanted more than anything was for my loved ones to think and feel that those words were true.


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  • Coping
  • Emotions
  • Exhaustion
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  • Pain
  • Presence
  • Processing
  • Relationships

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  • Emotions
  • coping
  • emotons
  • feelings
  • friendships
  • grief
  • growth
  • intentional
  • relationships
  • trauma

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